Kevin Lockard
09-30-2006, 05:40 AM
Since I'm still not allowed to post in the Politics section (do you need a certain # of posts to get into there or what?) and since this is something that really enrages me, here we go, time to fire up the old guns again! Pro-Marriage is always an idea that has pissed me off and lately, it has come to a head. So, someone tell me, why can't one have a normal relationship without being married? Why must one have to be married in order to find their "special someone." You don't!!!
Look in the Movies and on Television-----Sex, Love, and Marriage always seem to go together. It seems it's definitely a "sin" to not get married and go so far as to live together and especially raise kids together unmarried. Whether you're in a relationship or if you're living together, it seems you HAVE to get married. I think that is a stupid mindset. I decided to look up the manner on Yahoo and I found an amusing site with some nameless lawyer in Philadephia and he was listing all the strict reasons to get married. Among the things he listed that make marriage special are:
Love
Faithful to one another
Companionship
Respect
Caring
Man, where does this guy get his fucking information? ROFL! And all these things can't be filtered into a normal, unmarried relationship? These are all things that are a part of every relationship (every GOOD one, that is). The only difference is you're not wearing wedding rings on your fingers and you don't have some piece of paper saying that you are married and on the same level as "God." Of course, I've had others (of religious bearings I might add) come up to me and tell me that my opinions will surely change when I "find True Love one day." These people piss me off. "True Love" Are you kidding me? By "True", I take it that I love that person more than anyone else, therefore I want to spend the rest of my life with her. If I love someone, I love them, one way or another. And for that, I go with the flow. I go with the present, I don't look toward the future from now to the "rest of my life."
I see people starting to grow up and ready to start dating so that they will get married and start a family! Well, isn't that ignorant. They already know they are getting married before they even find that "certain someone", which is the #1 excuse for marrying. So, they are already under the assumption that one day, they'll meet "The One" and marry them and spend the rest of their life with them? Seriously, if all those things listed above aren't part of unmarried relationships, then what are unmarried relationships made of? Stupid!
Most Pro-Marriage people think that if you are against the idea of two people spending the rest of your life with in marriage, then you must be on the idea that no relationship will ever last. Actually, quite the opposite. When I'm dating and going out with someone, I'm not under the assumption that the relationship will not last. No, unlike with marriage (which preaches that under all circumstances, you will spend the rest of your life with someone even if it means you are eventually unhappy and no longer really in love), I'm just going with the flow. If it works out, it does. If it doesn't, then it doesn't and we move on with our lives.
These days, so many people get divorced cause they are coming more and more to the realization that marriage isn't a necessity and that it's a whole lot healthier, happier, and natural that if they are not happy with each other to find someone else of interest that will make them happy. Marriage is simply another of society's norm in order to make people feel fit in and "part of the group." Even Mr. Philadephia Lawyer says one of the reasons is "Social Acceptance." LOL! Talk about destroying your own argument. And before anyone even thinks it, I sure as hell ain't one of these hypocrites who says one thing and does another. I'm not someone saying all this only to one day fall deeply in love and marry them anyways. Nope. Marriage explains that you ultimately fall in love with a man/woman is by marrying them and making them your husband/wife. Stupid!
And please don't bring "God" or "The Bible" in to this. There's a reason why that's called "Faith" because you are believing in something with no physical proof. I won't get married because "God" tells me to cause The Bible has so many contradictions in it that it's just like telling a kid to find something he likes in a candy store. He'll find something, but there's so much to choose from. Anyhow, this isn't a rant abour religion so whatever. And you can throw that "50% of people get divorced but that also means 50% stay married" excuse all you want but in actual fact, all that does is prove my point! If no one was married, it wouldn't be 50% divorced, now would it? It would be a break-up rather than a divorce. Which one is tougher to go through, whether kids or involved are not? I thought so.
I could write much more on this topic but I'm just throwing the ideas out there to get this started. What do you think?
Look in the Movies and on Television-----Sex, Love, and Marriage always seem to go together. It seems it's definitely a "sin" to not get married and go so far as to live together and especially raise kids together unmarried. Whether you're in a relationship or if you're living together, it seems you HAVE to get married. I think that is a stupid mindset. I decided to look up the manner on Yahoo and I found an amusing site with some nameless lawyer in Philadephia and he was listing all the strict reasons to get married. Among the things he listed that make marriage special are:
Love
Faithful to one another
Companionship
Respect
Caring
Man, where does this guy get his fucking information? ROFL! And all these things can't be filtered into a normal, unmarried relationship? These are all things that are a part of every relationship (every GOOD one, that is). The only difference is you're not wearing wedding rings on your fingers and you don't have some piece of paper saying that you are married and on the same level as "God." Of course, I've had others (of religious bearings I might add) come up to me and tell me that my opinions will surely change when I "find True Love one day." These people piss me off. "True Love" Are you kidding me? By "True", I take it that I love that person more than anyone else, therefore I want to spend the rest of my life with her. If I love someone, I love them, one way or another. And for that, I go with the flow. I go with the present, I don't look toward the future from now to the "rest of my life."
I see people starting to grow up and ready to start dating so that they will get married and start a family! Well, isn't that ignorant. They already know they are getting married before they even find that "certain someone", which is the #1 excuse for marrying. So, they are already under the assumption that one day, they'll meet "The One" and marry them and spend the rest of their life with them? Seriously, if all those things listed above aren't part of unmarried relationships, then what are unmarried relationships made of? Stupid!
Most Pro-Marriage people think that if you are against the idea of two people spending the rest of your life with in marriage, then you must be on the idea that no relationship will ever last. Actually, quite the opposite. When I'm dating and going out with someone, I'm not under the assumption that the relationship will not last. No, unlike with marriage (which preaches that under all circumstances, you will spend the rest of your life with someone even if it means you are eventually unhappy and no longer really in love), I'm just going with the flow. If it works out, it does. If it doesn't, then it doesn't and we move on with our lives.
These days, so many people get divorced cause they are coming more and more to the realization that marriage isn't a necessity and that it's a whole lot healthier, happier, and natural that if they are not happy with each other to find someone else of interest that will make them happy. Marriage is simply another of society's norm in order to make people feel fit in and "part of the group." Even Mr. Philadephia Lawyer says one of the reasons is "Social Acceptance." LOL! Talk about destroying your own argument. And before anyone even thinks it, I sure as hell ain't one of these hypocrites who says one thing and does another. I'm not someone saying all this only to one day fall deeply in love and marry them anyways. Nope. Marriage explains that you ultimately fall in love with a man/woman is by marrying them and making them your husband/wife. Stupid!
And please don't bring "God" or "The Bible" in to this. There's a reason why that's called "Faith" because you are believing in something with no physical proof. I won't get married because "God" tells me to cause The Bible has so many contradictions in it that it's just like telling a kid to find something he likes in a candy store. He'll find something, but there's so much to choose from. Anyhow, this isn't a rant abour religion so whatever. And you can throw that "50% of people get divorced but that also means 50% stay married" excuse all you want but in actual fact, all that does is prove my point! If no one was married, it wouldn't be 50% divorced, now would it? It would be a break-up rather than a divorce. Which one is tougher to go through, whether kids or involved are not? I thought so.
I could write much more on this topic but I'm just throwing the ideas out there to get this started. What do you think?