View Full Version : WHat do you do when.....????
SIREN30
05-20-2003, 02:17 PM
What do you do when your friend has absolutely ATROCIOUS movie manners? I mean, if she was a stranger I'd tell her what was on my mind but since she's my best friend....aghhhh!
Bad habits my best friend has at the movies:
She talks loudly of her opinions before the movie starts.
She answers her cellphone when it rings and sometimes makes calls of her own. (yes, I know...:mad: )
She cries or laughs so loudly that it looks like she's making fun of the people who are moved to do so in a less garish manner...
She asks questions aloud to the movie screen such as "You stupid Idiot...do you REALLY think he cares?"
When she is scared she prays...out loud.:D :eek:
She buys candy at Wal Mart in those big bulky bags and not only do you have to hear her open the bag but she usually buys candy that is INDIVIDUALLY WRAPPED.
She makes loud and rude comments to anyone that dares to give her a dirty look due to HER rudeness.
So how do I handle this besides discontinuing to going to see movies w/ her alltogether? I promise her manners outside of the theater are fine and I LOVE her as a friend. She is extremely kind and generous and we get along conversationally better than anyone I know....go figure.
BorderEevilIII
05-20-2003, 02:32 PM
Ohmygawd Siren ur friend reminds me of that actress in Scary Movie who was talking out loud during the movie Shakespeare In Love. Well I would bring up cause the topic will come up if u choose not to go to the movies w/ her. Luckily I havent experienced that problem personally.
Ronaldinho
05-20-2003, 02:51 PM
If you get along so well with her and are such good friends, why don't you mention some of this to her?
SIREN30
05-20-2003, 03:00 PM
I don't know. She's so wierd. I never know how she'll act and I don't want to not do ANYTHING with her or make her think I feel that way ALL the time. Some people just don't know what good manners are, you know?
What would you do?:cool:
The Postmaster General
05-20-2003, 03:00 PM
Originally posted by Ronaldinho
If you get along so well with her and are such good friends, why don't you mention some of this to her?
I agree.
I've had to do stuff like this with friends. It is helpful to tell them how what they are doing effects you, and offer a solution.
"Sorry, I really want to watch this movie, could we talk about this later?"
"Look, I just polished that table. How about I get you a chair to prop your foot on."
Some of Siren's complaints, though, sound pretty harsh. I'd account a lot of those to this girl just being who she is. Either you're going to like her for it, or you aren't. It seems pretty critical to slight someone for liking candy.
SIREN30
05-20-2003, 03:02 PM
'Harsh' is the grating sound of 200 Werther's Originals being opened in sync w/ the score of the movie you are watching....:D
The Postmaster General
05-20-2003, 03:07 PM
Trip her out and buy the Werther's before the movie. Unwrap them all yourself, and put them in a plastic ziplock.
Present them to her when you meet up.
It may take some time and be tedious, but maybe it will be helpful.
Raoul Duke
05-20-2003, 03:11 PM
Meh, I don't think twice, my pal was being a real jerk, he was slurping his slushy and was talking loudly to me. So I just said "Shut the f*** up", and he did.
Hey, according to my experience you should beware. I lost a very good friend because of something like that. But maybe because I said some horrible stuff to him I'm ashamed of mentioning here :p
But we were at the Minority Report show, for God's sake! I couldn't help it!
Ronaldinho
05-20-2003, 08:00 PM
Well, you have three choices.
Put up with it.
Stop going to see movies with her.
Or tell her.
Seems to me that a true friend would take the third option. Use tact. Bring it up at a reasonable time--not during a movie. Maybe the next time she suggests going to one, say, "Sure, but..."
Good luck.
nebbit
05-26-2003, 02:53 AM
If you don't bring it up with her, you will one day, so be careful, because by then, you may be so mad with her you may say things you regret, and then there will be no friendship.
Come on, if she is a good friend and a nice person as you say, if you are diplomatic she will understand. Always start with I feel, I have noticed, I really like you but, get the drift.
Good luck.:D
Paterfamilias
06-04-2003, 10:58 AM
Yeah Siren, you have to either say something, stop going with her, or just put up with it. (Real helpful, huh?)
I have friends who talk and I've told them that it drives me crazy. If one of my friends acted the way yours does, I could not continue to see movies with them.
Shockwave
06-04-2003, 04:55 PM
Tell her to be curtious and kind to other while she is in the theatre because other people want to watch the movie. Just break it to her gently that she is getting in the way of your enjoyment of the movie..
But if that doesnt work u could just slap her on the back of the head and tell her to pipe down!:D
Invincible
06-04-2003, 07:17 PM
Originally posted by BorderEevilIII
Ohmygawd Siren ur friend reminds me of that actress in Scary Movie who was talking out loud during the movie Shakespeare In Love.
Regina Hall...I totally agree...it's just sooooo her. :D
Invincible
06-04-2003, 07:20 PM
Originally posted by Raoul Duke
So I just said "Shut the f*** up", and he did.
Yeah no shit, that's what I'd do.
How can someone be a BEST FRIEND..if you dont know how they would react to criticism?..and if they're that weird...why IS she a "BEST FRIEND"? My number one rule in friendship: No emotionally unstable people allowed...dont like chaos in my life...never have, never will.
Just from what you stated she does in a movie theater, wouldnt even have me KNOWING such a person...or at the least, a casual aquaintence whom after the FIRST bad movie going experience, I'd NEVER allow a SECOND.
nebbit
06-04-2003, 09:39 PM
Originally posted by SIREN30
What do you do when your friend has absolutely ATROCIOUS movie manners? I mean, if she was a stranger I'd tell her what was on my mind but since she's my best friend....aghhhh!
Bad habits my best friend has at the movies:
She talks loudly of her opinions before the movie starts.
She answers her cellphone when it rings and sometimes makes calls of her own. (yes, I know...:mad: )
She cries or laughs so loudly that it looks like she's making fun of the people who are moved to do so in a less garish manner...
She asks questions aloud to the movie screen such as "You stupid Idiot...do you REALLY think he cares?"
When she is scared she prays...out loud.:D :eek:
She buys candy at Wal Mart in those big bulky bags and not only do you have to hear her open the bag but she usually buys candy that is INDIVIDUALLY WRAPPED.
She makes loud and rude comments to anyone that dares to give her a dirty look due to HER rudeness.
So how do I handle this besides discontinuing to going to see movies w/ her alltogether? I promise her manners outside of the theater are fine and I LOVE her as a friend. She is extremely kind and generous and we get along conversationally better than anyone I know....go figure.
So Siren How has it gone? have you resolved the issue with your friend? It seems that a lot of people feel you should discuss it with her.
Have the comments helped you at all? to make your mind up about what to do.:confused:
Originally posted by Raoul Duke
Meh, I don't think twice, my pal was being a real jerk, he was slurping his slushy and was talking loudly to me. So I just said "Shut the f*** up", and he did.
With guys it's as simple as that. You can just say "Shut the fuck up! You're being annoying. I want to watch the fucking movie!" and it's no problem. He'll shut up and you can watch the movie. No feelings hurt or resentment afterwards. Well, at least with my friends. :D
freakandgeek
06-05-2003, 07:01 AM
i can see how it would be hard for you to say something, i have the same problem, but its not as huge....
if you really want to get the point across without saying anything, move your seat. but of course, that seems rude. i don't really know what to tell you, since i have the same problem.
Dixiecup
06-17-2003, 09:11 PM
This is a nasty thing to do, but see if anyone you know that she'll never meet go to the movie at the same time as y'all do. Tell so and so about her rudeness, and have that person go up as a disgruntled movie goer and tell her she's really obnoxious!
Lynn7
06-17-2003, 09:40 PM
Siren,
It sounds like you should rent movies with this friend and not go to the theatre at all- spare other people from the trauma, :D
If you really want to continue going with her, I would recommend the 5 Pm movie which is ususally pretty empty.
My grandmother is really obnoxious at the movies (talking loud and making comments). She gets very offended when I correct her so I only take her every once in a while. When we go we try to go at dinner time and it IS always empty then.
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