Ugh. My father's going to drive me insane..

[MallratsJunkie]

So my dad had a double bypass about 2 years ago, everything was fine. Then a few months ago he started admitting himself at the ER constantly, at least once a week. He'll freak out about getting dizzy, or a chill, anything that we normally feel all the time, he'll have an anxiety attack about.

Anyway... I work fucking 7 days a week at hollywood video, I rarely have a night off. My one day off for the next 3 weeks, I go with a few friends to finally see the new matrix. Halfway through the movie, right when the 2nd drill hits, I get a call from his girlfriend saying that he was just taken to the hospital. So I sit there for another 15 minutes, trying to watch the one movie I've actually wanted to see this year, and then finally leave. Get to the hospital, and there he is laying on a fucking stretcher with his legs crossed... I ask whats wrong... He says that the hair on his arm stood up because he got a chill.... I wanted to swing the adjustable tv into his face.... Just had to rant about this... Now I have to goto work.

[FeverDog420]

Wait, you took a cell call during a movie?!? :mad:

[jake]

Originally posted by FeverDog420
Wait, you took a cell call during a movie?!? :mad: I was thinking exactly the same thing...

[Jon Lyrik]

Wait, you took a cell call during a movie?!?

Beautiful, poetic words. Are you a pro?

[Avid_Fan]

Yeah, I was thinking the same thing. He needs to calm down.

[Vega]

Wait, you took a cell call during a movie?!? :mad:

I think that maybe, if his father has been having anxiety attacks and going to the ER on a weekly basis, it's okay for him to have his phone on in case something happens. I mean, his dad could have had something serious happen, and then they would have had to call the theater and have the manager disrupt everybody trying to find him. Lesser of two evils in this case, methinks.

[MallratsJunkie]

I always sit in the last row, and it was on vibrate... i took a text message. Jesus fucking christ. Its not like I brought my crying baby into the theater like the fucking people down the row from me, and its not like I was talking throughout the entire movie, like the guys 2 rows in front of us... between work and my dad flipping out, I need to have my phone on me at all times.

I'm just pissed off because now I'm going to have to watch the first half again, or completely skip it and walk into the second half of the movie. And considering that I don't have one day off in the next 2 weeks, I'm going to have to wait until then to see it. I'm pissed.

[FeverDog420]

So you didn't actually talk to someone on the cell while watching the movie?

[ParileseMonster]

Yeah, Ok I get this whole cell phone crap during a movie bit and that is a rant within itself but I do not have issue with that at this point. My issue is your attitude with your father. It is going to take some time for him to finally calm down and relax after having major surgery, a surgery that if he did not know about in time he could have died, he would have been dead and you would no longer have a father who would annoy you, or a father to talk to or to have around anymore. This surgery was a turning point for him, it made him paranoid to be careful and to listen to what his body tells him because not only was his health at stake so was his mortality. He has to face this, you are a witness to this. The reason why I am so angry with your attitude is because my father 15 years ago had an 8 bypass open heart surgery. He had a vein taken out of his leg from ankle to groin for his heart and a metal plate put in. If my dad did not go in the day that he did (feeling ill after shoveling snow in the driveway) he would have been dead and I would have been without a father and he would not have seen me get married 3 years ago! I do not know about you but I love my father and I would rather have him around to annoy me then have him dead. I would rather lose a 9 dollar movie ticked then have him dead. It took my dad awhile to relax and then after 14 years he had to have a balloon put in and my dad continues to listen to his body and if he does not feel right he will get himself down to see a doctor because you never know do you?
I do understand your frustration but man you sure did come across as way insensitive and selfish.

[TheDeadWalk]

Wait, you took a cell call during a movie?!?

Some people own cell phones for more reasons than to see what their boyfriend wants them to pick up from the store, or to call all the females you know in your little black book on a lonely Friday night to get some ass.

Supposing it wasn't a text message, you'd have to think:

"Hmmm. Cell phone's vibrating. That could be Dad in the hospital. He's been going to the E.R. quite frequently here lately not feeling well, I should probably answer that... BUT WAIT! THE ORACLE IS ABOUT TO SAY SOMETHING IMPORTANT!!!! WHAT DO I DO?!?! WHAT DO I DO?!?!?!"

You remember suddenly, that it would be rude to answer a potentially emergency telephone call. The Oracle was about to say something really important. If Dad's in the hospital, I'm sure his girlfriend would have left him a message or something.

[adamjohnson]

Well, stemmign from the point of view of a child who lost his father from a heart attack when I was only 7 id tell you to shut the fuck up and love your father while you still can.

Cuz when you put him into the ground youre gonna wish you hadnt spent so much time at the movies instead of spending time with him.

[Reigh Kaufman]

For some bizarre reason I want to make you go and watch Frequency and then re-write the original post afterwards.

I don't care if my father gets the worst case of senile dementia in recorded history and sits in the window-box telling anyone who will listen that he is a pot plant, if he calls me during a conversation with God himself I will be by his bedside listening to his delusional rantings. They still have video rental stores, guy.

[KcMsterpce]

Not only can you just rent it later, but you should have gone to the box office, and asked for a refund. I'm sure they'd understand.

So if you have to leave like that again in the future, just remember to ask for a refund and you can go finish watching it some other day. Or turn off your phone and claim ignorance.

[PapaJupe2k]

Originally posted by ParileseMonster
Yeah, Ok I get this whole cell phone crap during a movie bit and that is a rant within itself but I do not have issue with that at this point. My issue is your attitude with your father. It is going to take some time for him to finally calm down and relax after having major surgery, a surgery that if he did not know about in time he could have died, he would have been dead and you would no longer have a father who would annoy you, or a father to talk to or to have around anymore. This surgery was a turning point for him, it made him paranoid to be careful and to listen to what his body tells him because not only was his health at stake so was his mortality. He has to face this, you are a witness to this. The reason why I am so angry with your attitude is because my father 15 years ago had an 8 bypass open heart surgery. He had a vein taken out of his leg from ankle to groin for his heart and a metal plate put in. If my dad did not go in the day that he did (feeling ill after shoveling snow in the driveway) he would have been dead and I would have been without a father and he would not have seen me get married 3 years ago! I do not know about you but I love my father and I would rather have him around to annoy me then have him dead. I would rather lose a 9 dollar movie ticked then have him dead. It took my dad awhile to relax and then after 14 years he had to have a balloon put in and my dad continues to listen to his body and if he does not feel right he will get himself down to see a doctor because you never know do you?
I do understand your frustration but man you sure did come across as way insensitive and selfish.

I agree with this post. So let me get this straight, you get a call that your dad has been rushed to the hospital... and you sit there and watch some more of the movie before leaving? I don't quite know what to say about that I guess.

[FeverDog420]

Originally posted by TheDeadWalk
Some people own cell phones for more reasons than to see what their boyfriend wants them to pick up from the store, or to call all the females you know in your little black book on a lonely Friday night to get some ass.

Supposing it wasn't a text message, you'd have to think:

"Hmmm. Cell phone's vibrating. That could be Dad in the hospital. He's been going to the E.R. quite frequently here lately not feeling well, I should probably answer that... BUT WAIT! THE ORACLE IS ABOUT TO SAY SOMETHING IMPORTANT!!!! WHAT DO I DO?!?! WHAT DO I DO?!?!?!"

You remember suddenly, that it would be rude to answer a potentially emergency telephone call. The Oracle was about to say something really important. If Dad's in the hospital, I'm sure his girlfriend would have left him a message or something.

Okay, I don't know what your point is, but mine is: Anyone who can't turn their cell phone off for two hours has no business going to the movies. If there's the possibility of an emergency, make it a Blockbuster night or something.

[Grebdron]

This reminds me of Elaine getting a call at the theater that her boyfriend has been hospitalized, and she stops to pick up some Jujubes before going.

Fairly insensitive.

[MallratsJunkie]

I love how people put their own twist on my story... This is the rant forum, right? Its where you put everything out of perspective and just ramble about whats pissing you off at the moment. I love my father... Maybe the 9 years he left me in florida with a severely abusive mother dulled my emotional state, but that's another rant in itself and doesn't really have anything to do with movies other than the tapes she chucked at me randomly.

No, I didn't answer my phone. I have caller ID, so when I saw my dad's girlfriend's name, I waited for a voicemail. She txt msg'd me instead. I sat there for a few minutes, knowing that my dad had another panic attack before leaving. If that makes me a bad person, so be it. I don't mind being the bad guy. It fits well. I've had a shitty fucking life, and my father was no help. I had a heart attack at 19, and I went through the same thing he's going through, which is why I think I have the right to be insensitive to some point. It all comes down to trusting your body. Going in and out of the ER every other week isn't living and severely effects your quality of life.

You guys don't really know me or the situation. Its easy to jump to conclusions. I've lost a parent. My mother died of lung cancer when I was 17. If I lost my dad, I would be alone. I've got 2 half sisters who don't talk to me, an alcoholic aunt, a whackjob uncle, and a grandmother who tells me I'm going to hell for not believing in god in easter cards. That's pretty much my family. So losing my dad would pretty much devastate me. I don't want him dead, I want him living a normal life.

But hey, whatever...

[Grebdron]

Yes, it's the RANTS forum, and you can RANT away all you want. And, coincidentally, we can respond.

Sorry you've had it rough...but so have lots of people. I too was raised without one parent or another. My dad's already dead, too. I AM the alcoholic/drug addict who people don't want to talk to. Life sucks, deal with it.

[Beeblebrox]

Originally posted by MallratsJunkie
You guys don't really know me or the situation. Its easy to jump to conclusions. I've lost a parent. My mother died of lung cancer when I was 17. If I lost my dad, I would be alone. I've got 2 half sisters who don't talk to me, an alcoholic aunt, a whackjob uncle, and a grandmother who tells me I'm going to hell for not believing in god in easter cards. That's pretty much my family. So losing my dad would pretty much devastate me. I don't want him dead, I want him living a normal life.

But hey, whatever... [/B]

And to top it all off, you missed the last half of The Matrix.

[MallratsJunkie]

Hey, i'm not putting myself on any pedestal. I've had a shitty life. Most people have in some way or another. I don't know if I'd consider myself an alcoholic or a drug addict, but I'm always popping pills before work, and drinking myself into a coma afterwards. Its the only relief available.

People want to rant, that's fine. I never requested otherwise.

[MallratsJunkie]

Originally posted by Beeblebrox
And to top it all off, you missed the last half of The Matrix.

Exactly! lol

[The Postmaster General]

It's kind of like you are Neo, and the family problems are the real world. You want to go into The Matrix and sort everything out. But then you get on a telephone, and you are taken out of The Matrix.

Look man, I'm Morpheus. Take a pill.

[jackson13]

You say you love your father, and would be devasted if he was gone, yet you complain because he went to the hospital and you missed part of a movie? I dont get it.

My dad is 49 years old, and has already had 2 heart attacks. The doctors say the next one could be big enough to kill him. If im at the movies, or anywhere for that matter, and get a phone call saying 'dads in the hospital', im gone so fast all thats left is a vapor trail. Real life is 100% more important than some movie. And so what if it was just another panic attack? That just means he's keeping an eye out for himself, he didnt feel right and took the right precautions to make sure he was ok. My dad does the same thing, anytime he doesnt feel right he makes sure he gets himself a doctors appointment. Sure, its a pain in the ass to hear him complain all the time (he complains about anything and everything), but he's still here and I still love him, and for that I will always be grateful.

Stop bitching about missing some lameass (and lame it was) movie and cherish the fact that your father is still here and is ok.

[SkyNet]

ok.. the cell phone thing.... get off of it.. i leave my cell phone on Vibrate during a movie also... i usually see who is calling, but dont answer it unless it is god awful important. To me, his father goin to the ER qualifies as important. So leave off him for the cell phone.. its not like it was this loud ass ring.. it was on vibrate.. .worst thing that happened is he got a woody offa the vibrations!

2) i can see what you are saying about it pissing you off about your father. Because you said he goes to the Dr's over every little thing. And i def can understand your frustration of being called out of your most anticipated movie all year because your dad had a fucking cold chill!

I Think people dont understand your post.... you are happy to take off to see if your father is ok... but when it is for a cold chill that everyone gets you get a little miffed because you had to drop everything to go see if he was ok or not.

Im on your side bro!

Another thing... i say Quit HollyWood Video... they are workin you 14 days straight... and i know they dont pay good (i knew a girl who worked there b4.. she was a manager and made fuckin SHIT)!

[quoth_the_raven]

So wait, you care more about the end of a movie over the potential health problems of your own father?


no comment. if i told you what i really thought of this, i would be banned. so i am just going to walk away now...

[adamjohnson]

Write a moive about it and see how people react to it/you.

See what happens. Thats as far as i can go without screaming at you. Because hes annoying now, but youll miss his whining when you come home and hes sprawled on the couch, dead.

[Sparrow]

Originally posted by adamjohnson
youll miss his whining when you come home and hes sprawled on the couch, dead. You could say that about anyone really. We're all going to die. Everyone you know is going to die. Does that mean we can't get irritated with the ones we love sometimes? We're human.

This guy didn't say he doesn't care and hopes his father dies. For one thing, the heart surgery was 2 years ago. So it sounds like his father is out of the woods now. The original post said that lately, over the past few months, his dad's been having recurring anxiety attacks but keeps thinking it's something worse. The poster had a day when he got frustrated about constantly worrying about what keeps turning out to be anxiety/panic attacks and he felt like ranting about it to let off some steam.

[adamjohnson]

Well theres a difference between knowing youre gonna die and knowing youre gonna die SOON. My grandma had a heart attack/transplant - 10 years later shes dead. So two years is definetely not out of the woods. In fact i believe its highest probability that within five years youre going to have another heart attack. After that youre more or less alright.

It just sounds terribly selfish to me. I mean knowing your father very well could be dying (do you know that having a heart attack often feels like heartburn???) and then comlaining about it just seems worng. The guy is afraid of dying, afraid of leaving his wife and kids alone and saddened, and hes worried about the friggin movie.

And my last comment about the couch, that was as close to a (figurative) slap in the face as I could come. I just wante dyou to picture yourself staying at the movies a while longer and come home to a dead father. I mean my mom thought my dad was sleepin on the couch, so she went to bed, and woke up to find him cold as ice. You dont think she blamed herself? She could have gotten him to the hospital maybe and saved him.

Im just sayin man, no im beggin you, to change your priorities a little before its too late.

The speech from Good Will Hunting comes to mind. "My wife used to fart in her sleep." That one. He hated her farting under the covers at night, but after she was gone it was one of the things he was most fond of.

Things like that happen.

Please consider yourself lucky as it is. I know you say youve had a bad life, but its also bad not even remembering your father like me. Youve got ten years with him I didnt. You should be happy, not irritated, that he is still around.

Besides, he might stress over your anxiety because of him. And stress will lead him to another attack.

Dont consider this an angry rant against you. Im actually practically pleading with you here. Because I promise you youll regret every day of your life if you were mad at him the day he died. It happened to me, and I do.

[James Logan]

Originally posted by Reigh Kaufman
For some bizarre reason I want to make you go and watch Frequency and then re-write the original post afterwards.

I don't care if my father gets the worst case of senile dementia in recorded history and sits in the window-box telling anyone who will listen that he is a pot plant, if he calls me during a conversation with God himself I will be by his bedside listening to his delusional rantings. They still have video rental stores, guy.

*Denzel Washington voice*

My nigger! :)

[RavenBlade]

ok. Those who suffer from panic attacks,
such as myself and my mother, feel like
they are about to have a heart attack.
It really does. I couldn't tell you how
many times I had to take my mother
to the hospital, sometimes very early
in the morning, with tiredness to boot,
just so she can get checked out, and told
it was only anxiety.

Your father on the other hand,
had a heart attack, so the anxiety
or panic attacks, will make him
feel like he is having another one.
It's perfectly logical to go to the hospital
for even a chill on his arm.

You say your father really isn't living,
if he keeps going to the hospital over
a chill on his arm, or a minor headache.
Yet, you're not really living, if you keep popping those
pills, and drinking yourself into mini coma's

Sounds like you and pop have a lot in common
in not living fully. So don't be hypocritical.
You are allowed to vent, we get this,
we understand it. But your not really doing
much of what you want your father doing.

I am happy that you love your dad,
sad to hear about your messed up life.

But a movie, whether good or bad,
is not worth finding out your father just
passed away, during a pivitol scene in
the Matrix Rev.

Lose the job, it ain't helping you any,
find one that gives you good hours,
and good pay.

I don't mean any of this in a bad way,
when I say it, you are right, I don't know you,
or your situations, but what you put forth in
this rant. If you take offence to any of what
I said, then please accept my apologies.
For me, I don't like seeing people suffer
when they don't have to.

Take care.

Raven

[ParileseMonster]

You are never out of the woods after a major heart surgery. After 10 good years my dad had to go in again to have a balloon put in, six months after that he needed something else.

[Deathbox]

Originally posted by MallratsJunkie
Hey, i'm not putting myself on any pedestal. I've had a shitty life. Most people have in some way or another. I don't know if I'd consider myself an alcoholic or a drug addict, but I'm always popping pills before work, and drinking myself into a coma afterwards. Its the only relief available.

and you bitch that your father made you miss a movie you could rent when it comes out on dvd. You sound like a spoiled twat.

[ParileseMonster]

Ewww Spoiled Twat? They have Monostat and Summers Eve products at the store you know.:D

[JoBlo]

I guess I should have closed this puppy in the first place.

Please keep all future RANTS directly related to the movie biz or cinemas or celebs and not PERSONAL stuff.

Thanks.