Guys sitting next to each other in movies

[Lil' Lebowski]

You guys may have talked about this before, but
anyway...
Why do some guys have such a big hangup with sitting next to each other in the movies?
I can understand wanting a little elbow room, but it just looks
like there's some sort of homophobic hangup going on there.
I mean it's not as if these guys are going to the movies with
Mickey Rourke (Diner).......
Am I alone on this one?

[Grebdron]

If I go to a movie with a buddy, which RARELY happens, I always leave the "courtesy" seat in between. I'm not homophobic, though. It's just normal. If I were to be in a packed theater, I would sit next to him. But since I don't see the same movies as the masses, I'm almost never in a packed theater. So I don't run into the problem.

In short, he can keep his filthy hands off me.

[jackson13]

Jerry Seinfeld explained it best on an episode of Seinfeld. Kramer goes to sit next to him and Jerry says 'Hey....a little buffer zone. If we were at home we wouldnt sit right next to each other on the couch."

If im at home, and sitting on my couch, and a friend is over, im at one end, hes at another. Its nothing homophobic, we just want room to move around a little, and the same goes at the theater.

[Raoul Duke]

Usually I see a movie in the period where it's packed that night, or a fair amount of people there. So, I would sit beside a pal. But, if I were to see a movie and we're the only ones in the theatre, then I would leave a 'courtesy' seat, as Greb said, between us. It'd just look kinda weird otherwise.

[BorderEevilIII]

Mostly I have seen this w/ the YOUNGER crowd. And like everyone one has touched upon its whether the auditorium is packed or not. I used to do this in MANY MANY yrs ago. But its a guy issue thing. ;)

[The Postmaster General]

Guys tend to have wider ribs than women, causing their elbows to jot out more. I'm not too sure that it's the people you speak of who have the hang-up.

What bothers me, and there is a homoerotic issue here --

I have this friend who always wants to share popcorn, and always wants to sit it in his lap.

Really, am I homophobic because that makes me uncomfortable?

[Lil' Lebowski]

Originally posted by BubbaStrangelove
Guys tend to have wider ribs than women, causing their elbows to jot out more. I'm not too sure that it's the people you speak of who have the hang-up.

What bothers me, and there is a homoerotic issue here --

I have this friend who always wants to share popcorn, and always wants to sit it in his lap.

Really, am I homophobic because that makes me uncomfortable?

No, I wouldn't want to grab popcorn out of my buddy's
lap either (thinking again back to the Diner reference),
but it still looks stranger to me to see two guys sitting
a chair away from each other rather than next to each other.
If someone a really big guy, I guess that wouldn't be wierd,
but I figure If I went to a movie with someone, I'd at least
sit with them.
I see most of my movies by myself anyways.

[Reigh Kaufman]

I had this REALLY uncomfortable moment once, when me and my buddy's lips touched by accident while we were both blowing the same guy. Talk about atmosphere.



Nope, no problems with sitting next to a guy.

[Jerk Shapiro]

Originally posted by BubbaStrangelove
Guys tend to have wider ribs than women, causing their elbows to jot out more. I'm not too sure that it's the people you speak of who have the hang-up.

What bothers me, and there is a homoerotic issue here --

I have this friend who always wants to share popcorn, and always wants to sit it in his lap.

Really, am I homophobic because that makes me uncomfortable?


God...that brings back bad "hole in the bottom of the popcorn bag" memories...let's not go there.

[rupert pupkin]

naw

its just my buddy stinks :D

[ofmknockoff]

Well, in some of the theaters by me, there is only a cup holder evry other seat so it's much more convinient to sit every other seat. Also, if the theater isn't too crowded, I like to sit/lay over several seats to watch the movie (keep in mind that I only do this in an empty theater).

[blankpage]

Ok, I'm not homophobic. I've had this come up before, but I'm NOT. Anyway.

I just have a problem sitting beside a person, period. Male of Female. That's why I like to sit away from the crowd.

[FeverDog420]

Originally posted by Reigh Kaufman
I had this REALLY uncomfortable moment once, when me and my buddy's lips touched by accident while we were both blowing the same guy.

ROFL! Yeah, I hate when that happens. :D

[chinton]

Its funny this rant reminds of a college suitemate Ia once knew who refused to go to a movie with a guy alone. He was a sever homophobic and believed if he did that everybody in the theater would think he was gay. As if they really noticed or cared. once in the theater I would have to actually sit on the other side just to make sure everyone knew we were straight. Well he was straight. Im gay but in the closet

[HeavyK]

Originally posted by Lil' Lebowski
You guys may have talked about this before, but
anyway...
Why do some guys have such a big hangup with sitting next to each other in the movies?
I can understand wanting a little elbow room, but it just looks
like there's some sort of homophobic hangup going on there.
I mean it's not as if these guys are going to the movies with
Mickey Rourke (Diner).......
Am I alone on this one?

It's all about having more space. I'm a pretty big guy so i need as much space as i can have. Especially for 3 hour long flicks like the LOTR trilogy. I need to move around in my seat ever once in awhile or i'll start get severe pains in my legs and my ass will fall asleep.

[NuclearMisfit]

I have a bad knee problem if I sit still with no room to move my legs they cramp up and hurt really bad so if my friends are with me (two guys and a girl) and theres no courtesy seat between us I simply ask one of them to move their legs back a tad and let me use their leg room real quick to crack my knees.

Im very secure with my manliness to know Im not gay and im secure enough to be around homosexual men and be cool and not a homophobe.

[Neesh]

If i go to the theater with a guy, I usually sit on his lap. Does that make me gay ?

[bankholdup]

I, more than often, go to flicks with guys (I love women hardcore, though). I always sit right next to them. It's better during comedies, that way you can really share the laugh. But if I'm at my place watching a movie with a guy, you can be damn sure I'm not sitting right next to him. I usually give him the chair or floor, I take the couch. Just the way I operate.

[BorderEevilIII]

Originally posted by Neesh
If i go to the theater with a guy, I usually sit on his lap. Does that make me gay ?

LOL, unless youre moving up and down.:eek: :D

[Jerk Shapiro]

Originally posted by BorderEevilIII
unless youre moving up and down.

What would be happening then?

[syxxpac]

Originally posted by Jerk Shapiro
What would be happening then?

He'd be moving up and down of course.

Do you ever pay attention?

:rolleyes::D

[KcMsterpce]

I don't mind sitting next to one of my buddies in the movie theater. I do it a lot.

Actually, I sit next to a couple of my buddies at a time, sometimes.
If I have popcorn, I love to share it. Especially if the popcorn is really buttery. And if there's a hole in the bottom of the popcorn bag.

Sometimes, if the moment is right, I'll stretch and put my arm around my friend. At other times, I'll put an arm around each of the two friends I'm sitting next to. I don't know why anyone should mind about that. After all, at this point the popcorn bag isn't gonna fall off my lap.

Trust me.

:D :D

[Jerk Shapiro]

Originally posted by syxxpac
He'd be moving up and down of course.

Do you ever pay attention?




You would know.

[Damned Martian]

It must be an issue of the US. here in Spain I don't know anyone that goes to the theater with friends and leaves a sit in the middle. Everyone sit right besides their friends. Even with a semi-empty theater. It would be strange to me seeing a person doing it other way. I'd think there's some kind of issue among them.

Anyway, I usually go alone, so it's not a problem either.

[Shockwave]

Its simple really. I want both the goddamn arm rests to myself!

ahhh im a selfish bastard.:cool:

[SkyNet]

if i go to the movie where it is just me and 1 other male friend... we always sit 1 seat in between the 2 of us. If you wanna call it Homophobic.. thats fine, i prefer to call it... gimme my god damn space! If we r with a group of dudes... we all sit together.. and of course if im with a lady.. we sit niiiiice n close!

[Buck Turgidson]

Originally posted by Grebdron

In short, he can keep his filthy hands off me.

One of the unfortunate side effects of being so goddamned irresistible.

[Grebdron]

Originally posted by Buck Turgidson
One of the unfortunate side effects of being so goddamned irresistible.

And I don't even try.

[PapaJupe2k]

The Seinfeld gang discussing good looking guys.

Elaine- "You know George, just admitting that a man is handsome, doesn't NECESSARILY make you a homosexual."

George- (long awkward pause) "It doesn't help.":D

Seriously though, I like to have my space when possible at the movie theatre.

Kramer- "I'll tell you who is a good looking man, George Will.":D

[betje]

Originally posted by Damned Martian
It must be an issue of the US. here in Spain I don't know anyone that goes to the theater with friends and leaves a sit in the middle. Everyone sit right besides their friends. Even with a semi-empty theater. It would be strange to me seeing a person doing it other way. I'd think there's some kind of issue among them.

Anyway, I usually go alone, so it's not a problem either. I was just thinking the same thing (for Belgium in my case). We would find it really weird if people who came in together didn't sit right next to each other. Maybe we have wider arm rests in our theaters. ;)

[Scully1888]

I always sit next to my friend, male or female.

Everyone does that in Britain, as far as I know.

If you're sitting next to a stranger however, you always leave a space.

So they don't grope you or something. That's happened before.





Seriously. :)

[electriclite]

You boys must really have some high self-esteem to think that every guy you make close physical contact with just wants to get into your pants ;) ;) ;)

[Jim H]

I sit next to my friends/family, but I strongly prefer having one seat empty by me. I don't like being crowded in, in constant conctact with strangers throughout a movie. I wish they'd give you your own arm rest, that'd be enough. Sacrifice like two seats a row, and that'd probably do it.

[Annie Hall]

Originally posted by Reigh Kaufman
I had this REALLY uncomfortable moment once, when me and my buddy's lips touched by accident while we were both blowing the same guy. Talk about atmosphere.



:D :D :D

Reigh, you're still just...simply my favorite at times like these.



My perspective?

Wherever you want to sit, sit.

[sAtAn666]

When (on rare occasions) I go to the movies with a friend, I just sit next to him. But when watching TV at home with a friend, we both leave a big space in the middle of the couch.

*shrug*

[The Delfonics]

Eh I kinda feel weird admitting I ALWAYS sit next to my buddy, even when their is only like 2 people in the theater.

[TheDeadWalk]

I like my space, and I really just don't want to sit ass-to-ass with one of my friends, its uncomfortable for me.

The same as if we were watching a movie at my home, I wouldn't expect him to sit in the very next cushion of the couch with me... It's just uncomfortable.

The same as if I decide to hold a conversation with one of my friends, I still keep my space. I don't need to walk up to him and be within direct touching distance, as you stereotypically see some females do, as they often touch hands/shoulders/knees when talking.

It's just a pet peeve. It doesn't have anything to do with homophobia, I have no problem giving my homosexual brother hugs when he comes home from NYC, or sleeping in the same room with him, going to the theater with him, etc.

And it's also not just guys. Granted, I will sit in the next direct seat with my girlfriend, but if its her daughter, I don't. Why? Because to me, I just don't feel comfortable doing it.

[bob]

I always sit next to my friends when I'm at the movies. I've just never thought about it, really.

[QUENTIN]

This depends so much on a variety of factors:

1.) The buddy. There are two men I'll sit next to in a theater, they are my best friends and one of them just so happens to be gay. Otherwise, it's just kind of guy protocol to leave a space in-between, with all other guy friends I do unless the theater's really packed. In the same way that, if possible, you have a buffer urinal.

2.) How many buddies. If I go with a group of five guys, as I sometimes do to midnight movies, of course we all sit together rather than take up 10 seats and look ridiculous. I really don't think there's an element of homophobia to it, for me or my friends anyway, since we all have at least a few gay friends, but the reason numerous guys makes it okay may follow the logic "safety in numbers"...

3.) Any girls present? If, say there were 3 guys and 2 girls, all merely platonic friends, it would not be too weird to be in the middle, guys on both sides, because girls are there.

So basically the only time an empty seat is neccesary is when it's just you and one other guy, who you're not close enough with to have ever hugged, for me anyway...Or if he's just fat.


P.S. -Reigh, uncomfortable or not, I don't think you and Greb should have stopped.

[Gregorious8]

Originally posted by Reigh Kaufman
I had this REALLY uncomfortable moment once, when me and my buddy's lips touched by accident while we were both blowing the same guy. Talk about atmosphere.



Nope, no problems with sitting next to a guy.

This is so damn great it needs to be quoted thrice times.

[arto_j]

Originally posted by bob
I always sit next to my friends when I'm at the movies. I've just never thought about it, really.

Yeah same here...It's just how it's always been done. In fact, I think it'd seem weird to leave that "courtesy seat" in between...

[Avid_Fan]

It doesn't really bother me.

[Grebdron]

Originally posted by QUENTIN
P.S. -Reigh, uncomfortable or not, I don't think you and Greb should have stopped.

Who says we stopped?

[Reigh Kaufman]

Damn, Greb, you shouldn't make me laugh when my mouth is full.


P.S. I was at the cinema tonight and sat beside my mate. Nothing happened, and I didn't turn gay. I wonder what that means?

[Grebdron]

Originally posted by Reigh Kaufman
and I didn't turn gay. I wonder what that means?

You mean you didn't turn MORE gay?

[Reigh Kaufman]

Oh, be nice, you big silly.

;)

[blankpage]

I think Reigh has something for women now.


Say what?


;)

[JCPhoenix]

Originally posted by arto_j
Yeah same here...It's just how it's always been done. In fact, I think it'd seem weird to leave that "courtesy seat" in between...

exactly...
like all the other countries listed so far :p, here in canada, i've rarely seen friends sit a seat apart...that just seems odd to me.

[MallratsJunkie]

Never really thought about it.

I sit next to my friends.. Maybe I'm queer?

[Mike]

Originally posted by Neesh
If i go to the theater with a guy, I usually sit on his lap. Does that make me gay ?

LOL! That reminds me of this WILL & GRACE quote:

[About Rosario]
Jack: How dare you suggest our marriage is a sham!
INS Agent: Uh, you're gay!
Jack: What? A guy sleeps with guys and he's immediately pegged as gay?



Anyway, I've never had this issue before. Whenever I go to the movies with friends, male or female, we've always sat next to eachother. It doesn't seem weird at all and I've never thought anything of it.

[Mike]

Originally posted by MallratsJunkie
Never really thought about it.

I sit next to my friends.. Maybe I'm queer?

LOL!

Oh my god, I went to the movies a couple of times with my dad and sat next to him :eek:... That must mean I'm gay and want my dad :eek: ;).